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Family Connections| How to Address Moments of Conflict [October]

Posted Date: 10/10/25 (12:58 PM)
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FAMILY CONNECTIONS
HOW TO ADDRESS MOMENTS OF CONFLICT
 
 
Learning to handle conflict with kindness and confidence sets your child  up for success in school and life. Bullying and unkindness hurt children’s sense of safety and belonging. Our goal is to help every child feel valued and supported, so they can focus on learning and growing without fear.
Dear Families,
During an unannounced visit to one of our third-grade classrooms, I witnessed something simple but powerful. A student approached the teacher during a small group session and said, “He’s always being mean to me.” That moment could have gone in many directions. But instead of brushing it off or escalating it, the teacher paused the small group and invited both students to talk. They used tools we train and talk about often, the Meta Moment and the Blueprint, to walk through the conflict. The teacher asked questions like:
  • What happened?
  • How did each of you feel?
  • Were you being your best self?
  • What can you do differently next time?
What struck me most was that this didn’t take more than two minutes. Both children were heard. One student even wrote a short note that said, “I want to say sorry to my friend.” That moment stayed with me. It reminded me that respect is not about perfection, it’s about what we do when things go wrong, and how we learn to do better.
3 WAYS OUR SCHOOLS SUPPORT 
  • Using the Blueprint and Meta Moment to Address Conflict: When issues arise, students are guided through questions that help them reflect on their feelings, understand others, and plan better responses moving forward. This helps build empathy and restore relationships.
  • Modeling Respect Every Day: Adults consistently model respectful language, active listening, and calm conflict resolution so students see and practice respectful behavior in real time.
  • Creating Space for Real Conversations: Teachers don't ignore small conflicts. Whether during a group project, at recess, or in the hallway, they pause to teach, not just correct,, what respectful interactions look like. Students learn that it’s okay to disagree and still treat each other with care.
3 WAYS OUR FAMILIES CAN SUPPORT AT HOME
  • Use the Blueprint Questions at Home: Conflicts happen at home too—between siblings, friends, and even adults. Try using the same Blueprint questions to help your child reflect and practice respectful problem solving. Keep it simple, consistent, and judgment-free.
  • Talk About Conflict vs. Bullying: Ask your child: Is someone being unkind once, or has it happened many times? Is it just a disagreement, or is it meant to hurt? These conversations help children name what they’re experiencing and get the right support—at home and in school.
  • Model Respect in Everyday Moments: Let your child hear how you resolve conflict—whether with them or with others. When they see adults communicate respectfully even when frustrated, they’re more likely to do the same.




FOR MORE INFORMATION CONTACT

CLEAR STREAM AVENUE

JOHN SINGLETON, Principal

YANNIE CHON, Assistant Principal

(516) 434-3600, x1004

FOREST ROAD

KELLY NICHOLSON, Principal

ASHLEY LEMMO Assistant Principal

(516) 434-3600, x2002

SHAW AVENUE
ERIN MALONE, Principal

TBD, Assistant Principal

(516) 434-3600, x310



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